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Unread 06-25-2002, 07:31 PM   #1
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The Three Weeks

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The Three Weeks

The Laws dealing with the three weeks can be divided into various time periods with each period have more stringincies than the previous ones. They are: the Three weeks, The Nine days starting on Rosh Chodesh Av, the week that Tisha b'Av occurs, Erev Tisha b'Av and Tisha B'Av itself.
One should note that generally anything that is forbidden during the three week period and nine day period is prohibited until mid-day of the tenth of Av.

The following are to be avoided during the three week period: haircuts, marriages, music, Shehecheyanu, wearing new clothes. We will discuss each ot them on a individual basis.

One is not permitted to take a haircut during this three week period. A child who reaches the age of 3 should have his upsherenish after Tisha B'Av. [In many Sephardic communities, the prohibition of cutting hair applies only to the week that Tisha B'Av comes out.]

Adults may not cut the hair of children, either.

If one is suffering from lice in his hair which requires cutting the hair, then it is pemitted to take a haircut. (Nitei Gavriel, Hil. Bein Hametzorim 19:8)

One who must take haircuts because of job requirements, otherwise he may be dismissed from his job must seek Rabbinical guidance.

Married women are permitted to cut whatever hair is necessary for reasons of tznius, i.e. hair around the temples that would protrude from the sheitel, etc.
If one was unable to take a haircut before the three weeks due to being R"L in a mourning period and the period ends during the three weeks, most poskim permit the taking of a haircut until Rosh Chodesh Av if it is really necessary. This includes those that were prohibited from taking haicuts for the thirty day period following the death of a close relative other than a parent, or the much longer period due to the death of a parent.

Although it is brought down in Halacha that on the day of a Bris the father of the child, the Mohel and the Sandek are permitted to take a haircut (unless it is the week of Tisha B'Av), the Nitei Gavriel feels that it should not be done, since most people (in the abovementioned positions) nowadays don't even take haircuts in honor of the Bris during the rest of the yearanyway.

Under certain circumstances, girls of marriagable age would be permitted to cut their hair during the three weeks and they should seek rabbinical guidance if they feel it is necessary.

One is permitted to cut one's nails during the Three Weeks.


(By Rabbi E Wenger)
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More Halochos like these can be found on shmais.com
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Unread 07-08-2002, 01:30 PM   #4
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Laws of the Nine Days & Tisha B'av

From Rosh Chodesh Menachem Av until after Tishah BíAv we donít buy or make new clothes or shoes, even to wear after Tishah BíAv.

We donít do house construction or improvements, except to remedy a danger; we donít do house painting.

We donít eat meat (or chicken) or drink wine (or grape juice), from Rosh Chodesh on. On Shabbos, and at a Seudas Mitzvah (Bris, Pidyon Haben) it is permitted.

After Rosh Chodesh, itís forbidden to wash the whole body, even in cold water. Swimming is forbidden. If thereís a reason for a bath or shower, (I.e. a woman going to the Mikveh, a worker who got dirty, or one who needs to for medical reasons) itís permitted.

We donít wear fresh clothes during the Nine Days. Itís a good idea to prepare clothes to wear before Rosh Chodesh by wearing them briefly. Itís customary not to wash clothes or linens, even to be worn after Tishah BíAv. We may wash diapers and soiled baby clothes.

On Erev Shabbos Chazon, we prepare as for any other Shabbos. We may wash our face, hands, feet and head in hot water in honor of Shabbos. Those whose custom is to go to the Mikveh on Erev Shabbos may do so. We wear Shabbbos clothes and observe no customs of mourning on Shabbos.

Erev Tishah BíAv - Av 8/ July 17/Wednesday
From midday of Erev Tishah BíAv, Wednesday, July 17, we may study only those parts of the Torah that deal with the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash or the laws of mourning: Megilas Eichah and its commentaries, the laws of Tishah VíAv and mourning in Shulchan Aruch, the tragic parts of Yirmiyahu and the third chapter of Moed Katan, etc. We study the daily portion of Rambam before midday, and at night after the fast.

Tishah BíAv - Wednesday Night/Thursday - Av 9/ July 17-18
It is customary to eat before Minchah on Erev Tishah BíAv. After Minchah, we eat Seudah Mafsekes, the final meal before the fast, sitting on a low bench. The custom is to eat only bread and a hard boiled egg dipped in ashes. We Bentch without a Mezuman.

We donít say Tachnun at Minchah. At sunset we remove our leather shoes and put on non-leather shoes.

We take the Paroches off the Aron Kodesh. We dim the lights and read Megilas Eichah after Shemoneh Esrei.


The Restrictions
Five principal restrictions apply the entire day of Tishah BíAv: eating and drinking, washing, anointing, wearing leather shoes and marital relations. A couple should conduct themselves as they would during the Nidah period.

Pregnant or nursing women fast; a person feeling ill should consult a Rav.

We canít wash, even with cold water. In the morning and after using the bathroom, wash your fingers until the knuckles. (We may wash dirt off our hands.) We canít rinse our mouth. Oil, soap or cosmetics on the skin are forbidden, except for medical purposes.

We canít wear leather or partly leather shoes; rubber or canvas shoes are permitted.

We canít study Torah, except for those things that deal with the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash, or mourning: Megilas Eichah and its commentaries, laws of Tishah BíAv and mourning in Shulchan Aruch, the tragic parts or Yirmiyahu and the third chapter of Moed Katan, etc.

Itís customary to sit on a chair lower than three Tefachim, (about nine inches) until after midday. We donít say ďGood MorningĒ or ďHello.Ē (If a person who doesnít know the law greets you, answer softly, so you donít hurt his feelings.)

We donít say the Brochah, ďSheasah Li Kol TzarkiĒ (the Brochah for shoes). We donít wear Tallis or Tefillin at Shachris, but at Minchah.

At Shachris we say Kinos after we put away the Sefer Torah. After Davening, we read Eichah.

We donít do any work until midday. We donít take pleasure walks or smoke.

After The Fast
After the fast, wash your hands three times, as you would in the morning, without a Brochah.

We say Kiddush HaLevanah, (preferably after changing into leather shoes, washing our face, and eating something, IF we can do this and still say it with a Minyan.)

All the laws of the Nine Days extend until midday of the day after Tishah BíAv, because the burning of the Beis Hamikdash continued into the tenth.

We must wait until after 1:00 pm to eat meat and drink wine. Since this year the Tenth of Av falls out on Friday, Friday morning we are permitted to do laundry, take haircuts and bathe ourselves in honor of Shabbos.

May it be the will of Hashem that these days change to days of happiness and joy.

This is a very brief summary of the laws of Tishah BíAv. Consult a Rav for special circumstances.

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The Rebbe requested that we increase study of the Rambamís Hilchos Beis Habechirah during the Nine Days. Try to learn a chapter a day beginning Rosh Chodesh. (Thereís an excellent translation by R. Touger)

Try to participate in a Siyum each of the Nine Days, including Tishah BíAv (as well as up until the fifteenth of Av.)

Compiled By: Rabbi Shimon Raichik, Reprinted with permission from Chabad Chodesh published by Congregation Levi Yitzchok - Chabad of Hancock park

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Unread 07-08-2002, 01:31 PM   #5
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Directives of the Rebbe Concerning Menachem Av

1. Learn the halochos pertaining to the Nine Days.

2. We should add in learning Torah and giving Tzedakah.

3. We should learn about the building of the Beis Hamikdash from Sefer Yechezkel (from Chapter 40 on), from the Mishnayos of Midos, and from Rambam - Laws of Beis Hamikdash, also how itís explained in Chassidus.

4. We should try to make a Siyum each of the Nine Days, as well as Tishah BíAv and up until Av 15.

5. We should make the Siyum as public as possible, even get small children involved.( I.e. Shuls, Camps etc..)

6. We should connect the Siyum with giving Tzedokah.

7. On the Fifth of Av, the Yartzeit of the Arizal, we should add in Torah and Tzedokah, utilizing the day properly.

8. Make a farbrengen on the Fifteenth of Av, and publicize what the Gemorah says that from the Fifteenth of Av the night becomes longer and we must add in our learning of Torah. (Since the nights were created for learning) The farbrengens should be made for men, for women, and for children.

9. We should add in our learning of Moshiach and Geulah, as they are in the Rambam laws of Melachim and in the Gemorah in Sanhedrin, and as explained in Chassidus. We should make this learning as public as possible.

10. We must add in Ahavas Yisroel - Ahavas Chinom.
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Unread 07-08-2002, 05:06 PM   #6
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Wow! Great stuff, and jsut on time. maybe the mods could post this as a "anouncement" so that it remains visible throughout the month...
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Unread 07-08-2002, 05:42 PM   #7
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Missed the yaartzeit of someone the Rebbe called his his friend, Reb Yoel teitelbaum of Satmer, 26th of AV.
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Unread 07-09-2002, 09:19 AM   #8
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When did the Rebbe say that? Is it documented?
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Unread 07-09-2002, 11:22 PM   #9
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Maybe this belongs in the little-known hora'o thread:
See Sichos shabbos Dvorim 5746, where the Rebbe says that Hil. Beis Habchiro has 8 prokim, corresponding to 8 of the "9 days" that one is allowed to learn those halochos, and it seems the Rebbe means to learn perek layom ayin shom!
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Unread 07-09-2002, 11:26 PM   #10
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m'inyan l'inyan, i remember a sichah that the chassidshe parshah is also divided according to the days of the week, so that the beginning has more shaychus to sunday, and the end to shabbos -- does anyone know which sichah that was?
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Unread 07-12-2002, 08:00 PM   #11
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2 questions about the nine days and Tisha B'Av:
1. Is one allowed to wash just like a part of your body? Like not take a shower, but wash your hair in the sink?
2. On Tisha B'Av can one wear contacts? I know you can't lather anything, or smear stuff etc., and there's solution with contacts ... Is it a problem?
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Unread 07-13-2002, 07:23 PM   #12
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Wahoo:

You cannot wash in the nine days but if part of your body is dirty or sweaty you may wash to make it clean.

I think that cleaning contact lenses is ok, as it is cleaning for a medical reason, if you don't it might make an infection or 'gritty' feeling in the eyes. Of course it might be better to wear spectacles on tisha b'av, if the contacts are just for cosmetic reasons, and you can see just as well with your spectacles.
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Unread 07-16-2002, 04:50 PM   #13
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about the Rebbe's interpretation of "mishenichnas Av mi'maatin b'simcha" - normally translated as, "when Av enters, diminish joy," the Rebbe says, "when Av enters, how do you diminish the negative aspects of the month? through simcha."

if the Rebbe elaborated, could somebody fill us in please?

some questions: 1) has it been/is it inappropriate to add to or read the Humor thread during the 3 Weeks, 9 Days?
2) if one is truly focusing on the significance of this period of time, as listed in earlier posts, what's there to be happy about? expulsions? destruction? massacres?
and if one is b'simcha, then he's ignoring the fact that this is a spiritually bad time for us?
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Unread 07-16-2002, 05:33 PM   #14
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1) I think that is a question for a rov. The Rebbe obviously meant a simcho permitted by halocho.
2) See Igros v 15 p 300 (no, I didn't open it at random ).
There should be a letter in yiddish in Igros somewhere about having simcha even during saying kinus - because you are fulfilling Hashems rotzon. Does anyone know where it is?

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Unread 07-16-2002, 07:13 PM   #15
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The letter is in v, 12 p, 297
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Thank you - that's the one I meant.
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Question

WHAT DO WE DO ABOUT CHITAS EREV TISHABAAVAND ALSO WHAT IS THE MINHAG ABOUT CHITAS TOMMORROW?
CAN WE LEARN THE HILCHOS BEIS HABECHIRA ON TISHA BEAV OR NOT?
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Apparantly no hil. Beis Habchira - see sicho I quoted post # 7.
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Unread 07-18-2002, 12:14 AM   #19
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Lucky me, I happen to be in the middle of the third perek of Moed Katan, but I don't see the connection with the Bhm"k... It's about aveilus!
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Is there any makor to this that you may not listen to music during the 3 weeks?

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Probably included in "mecholos and rikudim" (dancing) - Mogen Avrohom OH 551:10 (and see Pri Megodim there).
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It's also included in "devorim hamevi'im lidei simcha". One of the first poskim who discuss the isur of music as adovor hamaivie lidei simcha was Rabbi Yosef Chaim Zonnenfeld in his Teshuvos, it's somewhere around teshuva 330-340.
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Quote:
Originally posted by Torah613
Maybe this belongs in the little-known hora'o thread:
See Sichos shabbos Dvorim 5746, where the Rebbe says that Hil. Beis Habchiro has 8 prokim, corresponding to 8 of the "9 days" that one is allowed to learn those halochos, and it seems the Rebbe means to learn perek layom ayin shom!

there is a horaa to be pode the seudos of erev rosh choidesh menachem av.
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what does that mean?
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